Ngongole – mavesi a Baibulo okhudza ndalama

Timalimbikitsidwa kuti tisakhale ndi ngongole

Musakhale ndi ngongole ndi wina aliyense kupatula ngongole ya kukondana wina ndi mnzake. Pakuti amene amakonda munthu mnzake wakwaniritsa lamulo. (Aroma 13:8)

Ngongole ikufanizidwa ndi ukapolo

Wolemera amalamulira wosauka, ndipo wokongola zinthu amakhala kapolo wa womukongozayo. (Miyambo 22:7)

Lamulo losakhala akapolo a ena

Munagulidwa ndi mtengowapatali, choncho musakhalenso akapolo a anthu. (1 Akorinto 7:23)

Zitsanzo za mavuto a ngongole

Davide anachoka kumeneko nathawira ku phanga la Adulamu. Abale ake ndi banja lonse la abambo ake anamva izi, anapita kumene kunali Davide. Ndipo aliyense amene anali pa mavuto, kapena ndi ngongole kapenanso amene anali wosakondwa anasonkhana kwa iye, ndipo iye anakhala mtsogoleri wawo. Onse pamodzi analipo amuna 400. (1 Samueli 22:1-2)

Tsono anthu ena ndi akazi awo anayamba kudandaula kwambiri chifukwa cha Ayuda anzawo. Ena ankanena kuti, “Ife ndi ana athu aamuna ndi aakazi, tilipo ochuluka kwambiri. Choncho tikufuna tirigu kuti tidye ndi kukhala ndi moyo.” Panali ena amene ankanena kuti, “Ife tikuchita kupereka minda yathu, mitengo yathu ya mphesa ndi nyumba zathu ngati chikole kuti tipeze tirigu chifukwa njala yakula.” Panalinso ena amene ankanena kuti, “ife tinachita kukongola ndalama zoti tipereke msonkho wa minda ndi mitengo yathu ya mphesa kwa mfumu. Ngakhale kuti ndife amodzi ndi abale athuwa, ndipo ngakhalenso ana athu ndi ofanana ndi ana awo, ife tikukakamiza ana athu kuti akhale akapolo. Ena mwa ana athu aakazi atengedwa kale ukapolo. Ife tilibe mphamvu yochitapo kanthu popeza anthu ena anatenga kale minda yathu ndi mitengo yathu ya mphesa.” (Nehemiya 5:1-5)

Wokongoza alande zonse zimene ali nazo; alendo afunkhe ntchito za manja ake. (Masalimo 109:11)

Yehova akuti, “Kalata imene ndinasudzulira amayi anu ili kuti? Kapena mwa anthu amene ndili nawo ngongole, ndinakugulitsani kwa ati? Inu munagulitsidwa ku ukapolo chifukwa cha machimo anu; amayi anu anachotsedwa chifukwa cha kulakwa kwanu. (Yesaya 50:1)

Kusakhala ndi ngongole kunali kwabwino

Kalanga ine, amayi pakuti munandibereka ine, munthu amene ndikutsutsana ndi kulimbana ndi anthu pa dziko lonse! Ine sindinakongoze kapena kukongola kanthu, komatu aliyense akunditemberera. (Yeremiya 15:10)

Ngongole inkaonedwa ngati temberero

Koma ngati simumvera Yehova Mulungu wanu ndi kusatsata mosamalitsa malamulo ake ndi malangizo ake onse amene ndikukupatsani lero lino, matemberero awa adzabwera pa inu ndikukugonjetsani: Mlendo wokhala pakati panu adzatukuka kuposa inu, koma inuyo mudzaloweralowera pansi. Iye adzakubwereketsani, koma inu simudzatha kubwereketsa. Iye adzakhala mutu ndipo inu mudzakhala mchira. Matemberero onsewa adzabwera pa inu. Adzakulondolani ndi kukugonjetsani mpaka mutawonongeka, chifukwa simunamvere Yehova Mulungu wanu ndi kusunga malamulo ndi malangizo amene anakupatsani. (Deuteronomo 28:15, 43-45)

Kusakhala ndi ngongole kunkaonedwa ngati dalitso

Komabe pasadzakhale wosauka pakati panu chifukwa Yehova Mulungu wanu adzakudalitsani kwambiri mʼdziko limene adzakupatsani kuti likhale lanu ngati cholowa chanu. Adzakudalitsani pokhapokha ngati mudzamveradi Yehova Mulungu wanu posunga ndi kutsatira malamulo onse amene ndikukupatsani lero. Pakuti Yehova Mulungu wanu adzakudalitsani monga analonjeza, ndipo inu mudzabwereketsa chuma kwa mitundu yambiri ya anthu koma inu simudzabwereka kwa aliyense. Mudzalamulira mitundu yambiri ya anthu koma inuyo palibe amene adzakulamulireni. (Deuteronomo 15:4-6)

Ngati mumvera Yehova Mulungu wanu ndi kutsatira mosamalitsa malamulo ake onse amene ndikukupatsani lero lino, Yehova Mulungu wanu adzakukwezani pamwamba pa mitundu yonse ya pa dziko lapansi. Madalitso awa adzabwera kwa inu ndi kuyenda nanu ngati mumvera Yehova Mulungu wanu: Yehova adzatsekula kumwamba kumene amasungirako chuma chake, kutumiza mvula mʼdziko lanu pa nthawi yake ndi kudalitsa ntchito yonse ya manja anu. Mudzakongoza mitundu yambiri koma inu simudzakongola kwa aliyense. (Deuteronomo 28:1-2, 12)

Kubweza ngongole

Anthu opembedza amabweza ngongole zawo

Usaleke kuchitira zabwino amene ayenera kulandira zabwino, pamene uli nazo mphamvu zochitira zimenezi. Usanene kwa mnansi wako kuti, “Pita, uchite kubweranso. Ndidzakupatsa mawa” pamene uli nazo tsopano. (Miyambo 3:27-28)

Oyipa sabweza ngongole zawo

Oyipa amabwereka ndipo sabweza koma olungama amapereka mowolowamanja. (Masalimo 37:21)

Ambuye akhoza mozizwitsa kupereka zofunika kuti mutuluke mu ngongole

Mkazi wa mmodzi mwa ana a aneneri anafuwula kwa Elisa kuti, “Mtumiki wanu, mwamuna wanga wamwalira ndipo inu mukudziwa kuti ankaopa Yehova. Koma tsopano munthu amene mwamuna wanga anakongolako zinthu zake, akubwera kudzatenga ana anga awiri aamuna kuti akhale akapolo ake.” Elisa anayankha mayiyo kuti, “Kodi ufuna ndikuchitire chiyani? Tandiwuza uli ndi chiyani mʼnyumba mwako?” Mayiyo anayankha kuti, “Mdzakazi wanu alibe kanthu kalikonse koma timafuta pangʼono chabe.” Elisa anati, “Pita kabwereke mitsuko yonse yopanda kanthu kwa anzako. Usakabwereke mitsuko yochepa. Kenaka ukalowe mʼnyumba mwako ndi kudzitsekera iwe ndi ana ako. Mukakatero mukakhuthulire mafuta mʼmitsuko yonseyo, ndipo mtsuko uliwonse ukadzaza muzikawuyika pambali.” Mayi uja anachoka kwa Elisa nakadzitsekera ndi ana ake. Anthu anabweretsa mitsuko kwa iye ndipo ankathiramo mafuta. Mitsuko yonse itadzaza, mayiyo anawuza mwana wake kuti, “Bweretsa mtsuko wina.” Koma iye anayankha kuti, “Mitsuko yonse yatha.” Pamenepo mafuta analeka kutuluka. Mayiyo anapita nakamuwuza munthu wa Mulungu amene anamuyankha kuti, “Pita, kagulitse mafutawo ndipo ukabweze ngongole ija. Ndalama zotsalazo zikakhale zako ndi ana ako.” (2 Mafumu 4:1-7)

Kukhululukira ngongole chaka chachisanu ndi chiwiri chilichonse – lamulo kwa okhulupirira a Chipangano Chakale

Kumapeto kwa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri zilizonse, muzikhululukirana ngongole. Zimenezi muzichita motere: wobwereketsa aliyense adzakhululukira ngongole imene anabwereketsa kwa Mwisraeli mnzake. Iye asadzafunenso kuti Mwisraeli mnzakeyo kapena mʼbale wake amubwezere chifukwa nthawi ya Ambuye yokhululukirana ngongole yalengezedwa. Mukhoza kulonjerera ngongole kwa mlendo, koma mukhululukire ngongole ina iliyonse imene mʼbale wanu ali nayo. Komabe pasadzakhale wosauka pakati panu chifukwa Yehova Mulungu wanu adzakudalitsani kwambiri mʼdziko limene adzakupatsani kuti likhale lanu ngati cholowa chanu. Adzakudalitsani pokhapokha ngati mudzamveradi Yehova Mulungu wanu posunga ndi kutsatira malamulo onse amene ndikukupatsani lero. Pakuti Yehova Mulungu wanu adzakudalitsani monga analonjeza, ndipo inu mudzabwereketsa chuma kwa mitundu yambiri ya anthu koma inu simudzabwereka kwa aliyense. Mudzalamulira mitundu yambiri ya anthu koma inuyo palibe amene adzakulamulireni. Ngati pali mʼbale wanu wina wosauka mu mzinda wanu wina uliwonse mʼdziko limene Yehova Mulungu wanu akukupatsani, musawumitse mitima yanu kapena kuchita kaligwiritsa kwa mʼbale wanu wosaukayo. Koma mukhale ofewa manja ndipo mumukongoze mʼbale wanu momasuka pa chilichonse chimene akufuna. Musayesere ndi pangʼono pomwe kusunga maganizo oyipa awa mu mtima mwanu: “Chaka chachisanu ndi chiwiri, chaka chokhululukirana ngongole, chayandikira,” kuti musaonetse mtima woyipa kwa mʼbale wanu wosauka nʼkusamupatsa chilichonse. Iye angadzakunenereni inu mlandu kwa Ambuye, ndipo mudzapezeka wochimwa. Mumupatse iye mowolowamanja ndipo muchite zimenezi mosasungira kanthu kumtima. Tsono chifukwa cha zimenezi, Yehova Mulungu wanu adzakudalitsani pa ntchito zanu zonse ndi pa chilichonse chimene mukhudza. Anthu osauka sadzatha mʼdziko lanu. Chomwecho ndikukulamulani kuti mukhale ofewa manja kwa abale anu ndi kwa osauka, osowa mʼdziko mwanu. (Deuteronomo 15:1-11)

Kenaka Mose anawalamula kuti, “Pamapeto pa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri zilizonse, chaka cha kukhululukidwa ngongole, pa nthawi ya Chikondwerero cha Misasa, pamene Aisraeli onse abwera kudzaonekera pamaso pa Yehova Mulungu wanu pamalo pamene Iye adzasankhe, mudzawerenge malamulo onsewa iwo akumva. (Deuteronomo 31:10-11)

“Ngati anthu a mitundu ina abwera ndi zinthu za malonda, monga tirigu, kudzagulitsa pa tsiku la Sabata, sitidzawagula pa tsiku la Sabata kapena pa tsiku lina lililonse loyera. Pa chaka chilichonse cha chisanu ndi chiwiri tidzagoneka munda wosawulima ndipo tidzafafaniza ngongole zonse. (Nehemiya 10:31)

Chitsanzo china cha kubweza ngongole

Ngati anakulakwira kapena kukongola kanthu kalikonse, ndidzalipira ineyo. Ine, Paulo ndikulemba zimenezi ndi dzanja langa. Ine ndidzalipira. Nʼkosafunika kukukumbutsa kuti iweyo ngongole yako kwa ine ndi moyo wakowo. (Filemoni 18-19)

Ngongole imagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chitsanzo pophunzitsa

Chiphunzitso cha Yesu Khristu

Kenaka Petro anabwera kwa Yesu ndi kumufunsa kuti, “Ambuye, kodi mʼbale wanga akandichimwira ndimukhululukire kokwanira kangati? Mpaka kasanu nʼkawiri?” Yesu anayankha kuti, “Ine ndikukuwuza iwe kuti osati kasanu nʼkawiri, koma ka 70 kuchulukitsa ndi kasanu nʼkawiri. “Nʼchifukwa chake, ufumu wakumwamba ukufanana ndi mfumu imene inafuna kuti antchito ake abweze ngongole. Atangoyamba kulandira, anamubweretsa munthu kwa iye amene anakongola ndalama 10,000. Popeza sakanatha kubweza, bwanayo analamula kuti iye, mkazi wake, ana ake ndi zonse anali nazo zigulitsidwe kuti zibweze ngongoleyo. “Wantchitoyo anagwada pamaso pake namupempha iye kuti, ‘Lezereni mtima ndipo ndidzabweza zonse.’ Bwana wakeyo anamuchitira chifundo, namukhululukira ngongoleyo ndipo anamulola apite. “Koma wantchito uja atatuluka, anakumana ndi wantchito mnzake amene anakongola kwa iye madinari 100. Anamugwira, nayamba kumukanyanga pa khosi, namuwumiriza nati, ‘Bwezere zimene unakongola kwa ine!’ “Wantchito mnzakeyo anagwada namupempha iye kuti, ‘Lezere mtima ine, ndipo ndidzakubwezera.’ “Koma iye anakana. Mʼmalo mwake, anachoka nakamumangitsa kufikira atabweza ngongoleyo. Pamene antchito ena anaona zomwe zinachitikazo, anamva chisoni kwambiri ndipo anapita nakawuza bwana wawo zonse zimene zinachitika. “Pamenepo bwanayo anayitana wantchitoyo nati, ‘Iwe wantchito woyipa mtima, ndinakukhululukira ngongole yako yonse chifukwa unandipempha. Kodi iwe sukanamuchitira chifundo wantchito mnzako monga momwe ine ndinakuchitira iwe?’ Ndi mkwiyo, bwana wakeyo anamupereka kwa oyangʼanira ndende kuti amuzuze mpaka atabweza zonse zimene anakongola. “Umu ndi mmene Atate anga akumwamba adzachitira ndi aliyense wa inu ngati simukhululukira mʼbale wanu ndi mtima wonse.” (Mateyu 18:21-35)

Yesu anamuyankha iye kuti, “Simoni, ndili ndi kanthu koti ndikuwuze.” Iye anati, “Ndiwuzeni Aphunzitsi.” “Anthu awiri anakongola ndalama kwa munthu wina wokongoletsa ndalama: mmodzi ndalama zokwana 500 ndi winayo ndalama makumi asanu. Panalibe mmodzi mwa iwo anali ndi ndalama zobwezera, ndipo iye anawakhululukira ngongole zawo. Tsopano ndi ndani mwa awiriwa adzamukonde koposa?” Simoni anayankha kuti, “Ndikuganiza kuti ndi amene anamukhululukira ngongole yayikulu.” Yesu anati, “Wayankha molondola.” (Luka 7:40-43)

Chiphunzitso cha Paulo

Anafafaniza kalata ya ngongole yathu, pomwe panali milandu yotitsutsa ife. Iye anayichotsa, nayikhomera pa mtanda. (Akolose 2:14)

Kukhala chikole cha ngongole ya wina (kulonjeza/kugwirana manja)

Kukhala chikole sikulimbikitsidwa

Munthu wopanda nzeru amavomereza zopereka chikole ndipo iyeyo amasanduka chikole cha mnansi wake. (Miyambo 17:18)

Utenge chovala cha munthu amene waperekera mlendo chikole; kuti chikhale chikole chako chifukwa waperekera chikole munthu wachilendo. (Miyambo 20:16)

Utenge chovala cha munthu amene waperekera mlendo chikole; ngati chigwiriro chifukwa waperekera chikole mlendo wosadziwika. (Miyambo 27:13)

Kukhala chikole ndi koopsa

Woperekera mlendo chikole adzapeza mavuto, koma wodana ndi za chikole amakhala pa mtendere. (Miyambo 11:15)

Usakhale munthu wopereka chikole kapena kukhala mboni pa ngongole; ngati ulephera kupeza njira yolipirira adzakulanda ngakhale bedi lako lomwe. (Miyambo 22:26-27)

Kupulumutsidwa ku chikole

Mwana wanga, ngati wamuperekera mnansi wako chikole, ngati walonjeza kumulipirira mlendo, ngati wagwidwa ndi zimene iwe unanena, wakodwa ndi mawu a mʼkamwa mwako. Tsono popeza iwe mwana wanga wadziponya mʼmanja mwa mnansi wako, chita izi kuti udzipulumutse: pita msanga ukamupemphe mnansi wako; kuti akumasule! Usagone tulo, usawodzere. Dzipulumutse monga imachitira mphoyo mʼdzanja la mlenje, ndi monga imachitira mbalame mu msampha wa munthu wosaka. (Miyambo 6:1-5)